Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Litha - Midsummer - Alban Heruin - June 21


St.John's Day, which replaced the more ancient celebrations on Summer Solstice with a Saint's Day. In a Victorian book of spells and incantations, I found this divination which is supposed to be performed on Midsummer's Eve, around sunset. An odd number of women (three, five or seven) go into a garden and each picks a sprig of red sage. They put these into a basin of rosewater setting on a stool in the middle of a room they have set aside for this purpose. Then they tie a line from the stool to the wall and each woman takes off her shift and hangs it, inside out, on the line. I assume this leaves them naked. Then they sit, silently (no matter what happens), in a row on the other side of the stool. Around midnight, each one's future mate will take her sprig out of the water and sprinkle her shift with it.
Midsummer's Eve is also called St John's Eve. The official version says that St John was assigned this feast because he was born six months before Christ (who gets the other great solar festival, the winter solstice). Actually it may have more to do with the story of St John losing his head to Salome. In ancient times, a ritual sacrifice was made to the goddess of midsummer.
Other midsummer symbols also accumulate around St John. He's the patron of shepherds and beekeepers. This is a time to acknowledge those wild things which man culls but cannot tame, like the sheep and bees. The full moon which occurs in June is sometimes called the Mead Moon. The hives are full of honey. In ancient times, the honey was fermented and made into mead. According to Pauline Campanelli in The Wheel of the Year, this is the derivation of honeymoon.

This is a traditional time for honoring water, perhaps because it plays such a vital role in maintaining life while the sun is blazing overhead. Several of the goddesses worshipped at midsummer - Matuta, Anahita and Kupala - are associated with moisture and dampness. St John baptized with water while Christ baptizes with fire and the Holy Spirit. In Mexico, St John presides over all waters. People dress wells and fountains with flowers, candles and paper festoons. They go out and bathe at midnight in the nearest body of water. In the city, they celebrate at the bathhouse or pool with diving and swimming contests.

Herbs and Lovers
Midsummer Eve is also known as Herb Evening. This is the most potent night (and midnight the most potent time) for gathering magical herbs, particularly St John's wort, vervain, mugwort, mistletoe, ivy and fern seed. In some legends, a special plant, which is guarded by demons, flowers only on this one night a year. Successfully picking it gives one magical powers, like being able to understand the language of the trees.
This is also a time for lovers. An old Swedish proverb says "Midsummer Night is not long but it sets many cradles rocking." According to Dorothy Gladys Spicer in The Book of Festivals, Irish girls drop melted lead into water and interpret the shapes it makes. In Spain, girls do the same with eggs. In Poland, they combine three of the symbols of the holiday for a divination. Girls make a wreath of wild flowers, put a candle in the middle, set it adrift on the river and tell the future by observing its fate.

Celebrating
This is a great festival to celebrate outdoors. Go camping. Go out into the woods or up into the mountains or down to the beach. Find some place where you can build a bonfire and light it when the sun sets. Bring along plenty of flowers (especially roses or yellow flowers like calendulas, St John's wort, or marigolds). Fashion them into wreaths, wear them as you dance around the fire and throw them into the fire at the end of the night. Bring along sparklers too (but use them carefully). Indoors, use whatever symbols represent light and warmth to you: golden discs, sunflowers, shiny metal trays, chili pepper lights.
Gather magical and healing herbs at night on June 23. Hang St John's wort over your doors and windows for protection; toss some on the fire as well. Harvest your garden herbs now so they will be extra potent.
To acknowledge the gift of water in your everyday life, decorate the faucets in your house. Z Budapest in The Grandmother of Time suggests walking to the nearest body of water, making a wish and then throwing in a rose you have kissed to carry your wish home. She provides the following wishing poem:

Yes, you are here in the soft buzzing grass.
Yes, you are listening among the flowering gardens.
Yes, you are shining from the most royal blue sky.
Yes, you are granting me what I wish tonight.
Grant me a healthy life rich with high purpose,
A true partner to share my joys and my tears,
Wisdom to hear your voice giving me guidance,
Wealth to give to others as you have given to me.


Honoring Your Strength
The sun is associated with will, vitality, accomplishment, victory and fame. As you throw your flowers into the fire, acknowledge your accomplishments. Write about these at length in your journal, perhaps while sipping a cup of tea sweetened with honey, or gather your friends in a circle and go around several times with each person boasting about their strengths. Assign a different topic for each round, for instance, aspirations, courage, achievement, competence. Toast each other (with mead, if you can find it). This is your night to shine.

Britain: Traditional Midsummer. Although Midsummer is celebrated by most Pagans worldwide on the eve and day of the actual Solstice, Britain traditionally celebrates on June 23rd. The Neo-Pagan holiday has been dedicated to the Green Man. The day also commemorates Cu Chulainn, a legendary Irish hero.
Asatru: Sommerblot. The Midsummer Festival is a century-old tradition in Scandinavia, celebrating the earth, summer, and the longest day of sunlight -- the Summer Solstice. In the North it is the time of the midnight sun. As with most Old World celebrations, Christianity has influenced some of the traditions. The festival now honors St. John the Baptist rather than pagan gods. Huge bonfires are built.
In Finland, the bonfire is called a "kokko". The wood used is collected throughout the year. Homes are decorated with garlands of wildflowers and greenery. People dance, visit friends and relatives all night. In pagan times people would jump over the bonfires for luck,and rituals and dances were once used to drive away evil spirits and ensure a fertile land. Today, Maypoles are erected and danced around. Huge crosses called "midsommarstoeng" are also built. The branches from birch trees are used to build the structure, and then covered with leaves and flowers. Young girls collect wildflowers and place them under their pillows to dream of their future loves, boys use a copper coin.
Slavic Pagan: Kupala - Kresen (June) 23. In the Old Russian tongue, Kupala means "bather", and the holiday is celebrated in remembrance of the human sacrifices made in olden times to the Master of things Submarine, Jasse, the Dragon. All through the night, people celebrate, sing songs, hike, and tell fortunes. A blot is held near water. In times gone by, fires were lit in preparation for a sacrifice of a young maiden by drowning in the river. Later, human sacrifice was replaced by a doll made of bread (a loaf-doll).

Sunday, March 30, 2014

More Ways To Utilize Essential Oils - Hair Of The Dog as posted by Poppy Whiteheart

Hair of the Dog Aromatherapy for Hangovers

Hungover?

We've all been there at some point – lost track of how many, indulging in liquid rather than solid refreshments, a bit too much sampling of the a variety of drink options, etc, etc…. The next day we pay: headache, cotton mouth, sour queasy stomach, cloudy thinking and hyper-sensitivity to light and sound.

The roaring hangover!!

Fortunately, people have learned a lot about what eases hangover symptoms after all those centuries of over indulgence: rest, rehydration, aspirin, etc. Aromatherapy and essential oils can help too. Here are a few essential oils that relieve hangover symptoms.

What can you use as your hair of the dog?

Hungover dog with ice pack on his head in need of Starchaser Aromatics and Energy Work Hair of the Dog aromatherapy inhaler

Essential Oils for Hangovers 

Fennel (Foeniculum vulgare) – Fennel is carminative, stomachic and hepatic (i.e., stomach and liver tonic) and thus settles an upset stomach and clears the liver and lymph of toxins accumulated from the metabolism of alcohol.

Ginger (Zingiber officinale) – Ginger is carminative, stomachic and hepatic (tonic for the stomach and liver). It subdues nausea too. Ginger is clearing and stimulating, lifting the classic mental fog.

Peppermint (Mentha piperita) – Peppermint provides excellent relief from headaches and mental fatigue. It also settles an upset stomach, nausea and the urge to vomit.

Rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis) – Rosemary is a stimulant and a tonic for the central nervous system. As such it promotes mental clarity. A nice blend for mental clarity is rosemary, peppermint and basil. Rosemary also aids digestion and liver functioning.

Juniper Berry (Juniperus communis) – Juniper Berry is a great for detoxification. It eases a sour upset stomach, and helps clear the liver and lymph of toxins.

Some Additional Essential Oils for Hangovers

Some other helpful essential oils are cardamon (Elettaria cardamomum) for stomach upset; basil (Ocimum basilicum) for nausea, improved mental clarity and reduced irritability; lemon (Citrus limon) for uplifting the spirits and easing stomach upset; and lavender (Lavandula angustifolia) for headaches and mental and physical calm. While a number of floral essential oils (geranium, rose, etc) can improve balance, for some people the scent can be a bit off putting during these delicate times. However, a tiny hidden drop or two in a blend can do wonders.

Application of Essential Oils for Hangovers

The best way to apply or use essential oils for hangover relief is an inhaler. It can be personalized, it’s portable and you can sniff it as often as you like.

By Starchaser Healing Arts
As posted on In The Dark

Monday, December 23, 2013



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Holiday Pet Care Reminders

Holiday Plant Safety
As Posted by Seer

Flowers and plants add beauty to any holiday, and they make great holiday gifts. But if your family includes pets, you may want to learn which plants are safe and which ones you need to avoid. Remember that ingesting bulb plants often cause the most severe illnesses. Here are a list of some popular winter holiday plants and their potential toxicities.

Holly (Ilex sp.). This plant, commonly found around Christmas time, can cause intense vomiting and diarrhea. Mental depression can also occur.

Amaryllis (Amaryllis spp). Ingestion can result in vomiting, diarrhea, depression, lack of appetite, tremors, drooling and abdominal pain.

Mistletoe (Phoradendron spp.). This plant, another Christmas plant, can also cause significant vomiting and diarrhea. In addition, this plant has been associated with difficulty breathing, slowed heart rate, collapse and, if a lot is ingested, death has occurred. Some animals may even show erratic behavior and possible hallucinations.

Poinsettia (Euphorbia). This plant can cause irritation to the mouth and stomach and sometimes vomiting. It has a low level of toxicity and is overrated as a toxic plant. Many people consider it basically non-toxic. 

Christmas cactus, Thanksgiving cactus, Easter cactus (Schlumbergera or Zygocactus). In dogs, if large quantities of this plant are ingested, vomiting, possibly with blood, diarrhea, possibly with blood and mental depression have been reported. With small ingestions, typically there are no signs of toxicity. These plants are considered low toxicity plants. 

For the full discussion and some less common toxic winter holiday plants: http://darknessclosesin.ning.com/group/fabulousfelines/forum/topics/holiday-plant-safety 


Christmas Puppies Are a Very Bad Idea 
As Posted by Anca van Niekerk ADMIN

This year, I'm giving you ample warning: If you're thinking of a Christmas puppy, just stop it, right now. No matter how much your children want one, the holidays are just about the worst time possible for most families to get a dog.

Christmas puppies are often a parent's headache by February, when the animals are still not house-trained, the kids are tired of the responsibilities involved in caring for a pet, and it's still too cold and dark outside for dog-training after work and school. Too often, these animals are a shelter's problem by summer, when their cuteness is long gone and their untrained boisterousness has lost any semblance of charm.

Despite the warnings of those in the know, every year parents give in to the begging of their children and pop for a puppy. It's too easy to imagine the Christmas puppy as the most precious Norman Rockwell snapshots ever, the puppy in a box, the puppy with a ribbon, the puppy giving such a perfect kiss to the oh-so-happy face of a child.

The attraction is understandable: Who doesn't love a puppy, and who wouldn't want to delight a child? But there are reasons why shelters, rescue groups and responsible breeders are uniform in their advice to think twice about a Christmas puppy.

Puppies are not toys. They are living, breathing (not to mention eating and urinating) beings who need a lot of attention. Who has time for a pup during the holidays, that stressful season of socializing and shopping? With a houseful of guests and a holiday dinner to prepare, who will make sure the puppy isn't being mauled by overly enthusiastic children and guests? Who has time to get house-training started right?

Let's back up a little and look at another Christmas reality. Many reputable breeders and shelters flat-out won't cooperate with your Christmas puppy lust. The sellers who have puppies for Christmas delivery are often motivated by money. Such breeders are not likely to cut into profits with pesky screening for genetic diseases, nor are they likely to care about the importance of socialization. These attitudes may cost you in the long run, both in dollars and in heartbreak.

But say you find the right puppy anyway. It's still a bad time to get a puppy. Doubt me? Try house-training a puppy when it's cold and stormy. Are you really so keen on the idea that you want to be out on winter nights, shivering while a puppy carefully contemplates whether he'd rather sniff or pee?

What about the rest of the training? The first few months of a dog's life are crucial: Bad habits are far easier to prevent than they are to break later. Will you really feel like training your pup when the holidays are over, the days are short and the kids are back in school? And how will you socialize your young dog?

Dogs who grow up unhouse-trained, unmannered and unsocialized too often never get a chance to grow up much at all. From summer to fall, I get dozens and dozens of letters from people who are tearing out their hair over their now-adolescent Christmas puppy. Some people work with the dogs, but many just dump them. Sad for the families; tragic for the dogs.

Dogs can be great for children, and children can be great with dogs. But Christmas is not the best time to launch such a promising relationship. Somebody has to be the grown-up here, and if you're the parent, it should be you. Wait until late spring or early summer to find the perfect pup and get your pet off to a great start.

Gina's Web Pick

This is the time of year when poinsettias start showing up, and people start worrying about how safe they are around pets. The good news: You can enjoy this seasonal foliage without concern -- or without much concern, anyway. Poinsettias may cause minor stomach irritation if enough of the plant is ingested.

Curious about what's poisonous and what's not? Check out the directory of plants put out by the University of California, Davis. You'll find an exhaustive listing broken up alphabetically, and referenced not only by how dangerous a plant is, but also by the kind of damage it does.

The Scoop

Do you have a pet who likes to rummage in the bathroom wastebaskets or kitchen trash bin? This behavior is very rewarding to the pet who indulges in it, and so it's a very hard habit to break. You can try to booby-trap the cans by buying motion-detector noisemakers, or mats that give animal trespassers a small electric shock.

An easier, kinder and more reliable way to solve the problem is to simply remove the temptation. For some pets, a lidded trash bin will solve the problem. For others, you'll need to put the bin behind the door of a cabinet or pantry. Sometimes changing your behavior is the most efficient way to change your pet's behavior -- and the strategy is easier on you both.

From Gina's Mailbag

Q: I had dogs growing up, but haven't had one in my adult life -- just haven't had the time. My wife and I are in our 40s, and we have a young daughter, age 7. She really wants a dog. Our house has a very small yard, and we're not home much. Although I would prefer a big dog, my wife argues that a small dog would suit us better. Can you recommend a breed? -- T.S., via e-mail

A: If you're not home much, you might rethink getting a dog at all. Although many dogs -- if not most -- do fine with owners who are home after work and on weekends, if you're the kind of family that spends a lot of weekends gone and a lot of nights out, you'd be well-advised to wait to get a dog until your lifestyle suits one.

Dogs are pack animals, and your family is their pack. They don't do well spending most of their lives alone. Those animals who have such lives are miserable and prone to behavior problems such as digging, barking, chewing -- anything to fill those lonely hours.

If you're willing to commit to the time and energy it takes to properly care for a dog, then I can think of a handful of breeds that may fit the bill.

First on my list would probably be the pug. The breed is the largest of the toy dogs, weighing up to 20 pounds or so, and is a sturdy, easygoing companion with a face anyone's mother could love. Two breeds that are a little bigger but similar in looks and temperament: Boston terrier and French bulldog.

If you're looking for a small dog with a big-dog attitude, think Pembroke Welsh corgi. These short-legged dogs don't need much space, but like all herding breeds they like to stay busy and mentally engaged.

Another busybody with a big-dog attitude is the border terrier, considered by the experts to be one of the less pugnacious of the tough-minded terrier breeds.

Don't rule out a mixed breed, either. Although it's hard to predict the size of a shelter puppy -- one friend of mine adopted a puppy who was predicted to be the size of a fox terrier, but ended up at 85 pounds -- you can reliably find a properly sized dog by adopting mixed breeds as adults.

For your situation, skipping the puppy stage has a real benefit. If you take your time and work with shelter and rescue groups, you should be able to come up with a dog with maturity and some training who'll fit right into your family without all the time-consuming fuss demanded by a puppy.

Q: Please solve an argument my roommate and I are having. She has a cat, and I'd rather she not. But I can tolerate the beast, except for the litterbox smell. My roommate says cleaning the litterbox once a week is enough; I say it's not. Who's right? -- S.C., via e-mail

A: Ideally the box should be scooped every time the cat uses it, or a couple times a day at least. Realistically, daily attention is probably fine.

Aside from the issue of smell, tell your roommate that by neglecting this chore she's flirting with a bigger problem: a cat who skips the litterbox. Cats don't like dirty bathrooms any more than people do, and your roommate's pet may start looking for a cleaner place to go if this stinky situation isn't remedied.

Date Published: 12/10/2013 
http://www.veterinarypartner.com/Content.plx?P=A&A=306&S=1 



12 Festive Munchies You Should Never Feed Your Dog or Cat 
As Posted by Queen Aradia Perkins


The holiday season is in full swing and merriment is all around. There are parties, family members dropping in, friends stopping by, and so many other reasons to celebrate. You know what happens when people get together, don’t you? Food happens, of course. Oh, so much food.

Your pets love this because it means endless snacking opportunities for them. Even if you’re not handing goodies under the dinner table to your dog or cat, your Uncle Jack or Cousin Mirabelle might be doing it. That’s why this time of year, it is critical to keep a sharp eye on what your furry friends are eating and drinking.

A wide variety of holiday treats are downright toxic and could harm or kill your pets. Here are some of the worst offenders:

1. Grapes, Raisins and Currants

Grapes and raisins Surprised? Grapes, raisins and currants are a conundrum, because some cats and dogs will eat them and experience no ill effect, while others develop kidney failure and sometimes die. No one has determined why all pets don’t have the same reaction. However, the ones who react badly become very ill.

Grape or raisin toxicosis will typically cause vomiting, lethargy, diarrhea, dehydration and decreased urination. Even pets that survive an initial bout of toxicosis can have persistent kidney disease afterward. Truly, it’s not worth the risk. Keep grapes and raisins away from your dog or cat — even as an ingredient in cookies, cereals, chicken salads and so on.

2. Onions, Garlic and Chives

We’re lumping these items together on this list because, as tasty ingredients, they end up in so many festive dishes. Think about it. Onions, garlic and chives end up in stuffing, gravies, pizza, pasta dishes, side dishes, soups, chips, dips and even baby food.

Don’t forget that we’re also talking about the powdered forms you use in your cooking. Onion powder, garlic powder, dried chives, dehydrated onions — it’s all dangerous. In fact, these forms can be even worse because they are so much more concentrated. Onions, by the way, include anything in the “onion family” such as shallots and scallions.

Cats and dogs suffer equally here. A compound in these foods called “thiosulphate” damages pets’ red blood cells. Dogs and cats can develop anemia several days after eating any of these foods, though onions seem to be the biggest threat overall. Problems can even develop over time, after eating small doses regularly. Japanese breeds of dogs, such as the Akita and Shiba Inu, are particularly vulnerable. Watch for orange- or red-tinged urine and lethargic behavior.

3. Wine, Beer and Basically All Alcoholic Beverages

Your cousin Zippy might think it’s a royal hoot to give your dog enough beer on New Year’s Eve to make him tipsy like everyone else at the party. Don’t let him do it. What the alcohol is doing to your dog is no laughing matter. For example, the hops in beer are poisonous to your dog. Similarly, avoid letting your dog clean up that spilled wine on the kitchen floor. The grapes and alcohol content are toxic for him.

Cats likewise shouldn’t imbibe. Keep them away from lapping at drinks they might find attractive because of their dairy content — spiked egg nog, White Russians, that sort of thing. Two measly teaspoons of whiskey can put a 5-pound cat into a coma. A third teaspoon can kill her.

Drinking any alcoholic beverages can result in extreme fever leading to multiple organ system failure. The worst case scenario here is coma and death. Truly not so funny, is it? Watch for restlessness, excessive panting, tremors and seizures.

4. Chocolate

Yes, you know this already, but chocolate must be part of this list. Chocolate contains caffeine and theobromine, which are methylxanthines. Methylxanthines are toxic to dogs and cats. The darker the chocolate, the more harmful it is.

You don’t want a real life “death by chocolate.” Keep it well away from pets. If you suspect your dog or cat has eaten chocolate and is showing symptoms like panting, vomiting, or diarrhea, get to the vet immediately. Heart and nervous system damage may otherwise result.

5. Avocados

No guacamole for your fur kids. Avocados contain persin, which doesn’t sit well in doggie and kitty stomachs. It can cause heart congestion, diarrhea and vomiting. It won’t kill your dog or cat, but it will make them very uncomfortable if they eat too much. Note that for other pets like rabbits, birds and horses, avocado is much more problematic and should be avoided. It can cause everything from respiratory distress to death.

6. Walnuts, Almonds and Macadamia Nuts

Of all the nuts, avoid feeding macadamia nuts to your dog. They can cause neurological problems ranging from disorientation, muscular weakness and vomiting to tremors, lameness or even a total inability to walk. Other troublesome nuts include walnuts, which can cause bowel obstructions and digestive distress, and almonds, which are hard for dogs to digest.

Even nuts that are safe for dogs turn into serious problems if they’re moldy or too fatty. The mold may contain toxins, while high levels of fat may cause pancreatitis.

7. Mushrooms

Depending on the type consumed, mushrooms can be fatal to dogs. We put them in a lot of holiday foods, from pizza to stuffing, so remain watchful. Some mushrooms contain deadly toxins, while others may result only in an upset stomach.

Don’t gamble if you believe your dog has eaten mushrooms, whether from cooked food or raw from an outdoor source. Watch for jaundice, lethargy, vomiting, abdominal pain, disorientation, and drooling. Get your dog to a vet, and try to bring one of the mushrooms she ate with you to help determine what type of treatment is needed.

8. Xylitol

Xylitol is a sweetener used in sugar-free gum, baked goods and other foods. While it might help you stay slim, it can be deadly to your pets. In cats and dogs, Xylitol causes insulin levels to spike rapidly and blood sugar levels to plummet. The result can be liver failure. Watch for seizures, disorientation, loss of coordination and lethargic behavior.

9. Bread Dough

Never let your dog or cat have raw bread dough. The yeast will cause the dough to rise inside their little furry tummies. Yeast multiplication can also cause alcohol intoxication. Either way, this is a recipe for gastrointestinal distress at best. At worst, well… let’s just say you really don’t want to be the cause of a distended or ruptured stomach, do you? It happens.

10. Fatty Meat Trimmings and Turkey Skin Fat and trimmings from meat can cause intestinal upset and digestive problems. Cooked turkey skin can have a host of things that are toxic to your pet. If you cooked that turkey using problematic oils, spices, and marinades, your dog might have difficulty digesting the skin. Eating it puts him at risk for pancreatitis. Watch for abdominal pain, vomiting and lethargy. 

11. Raw Fish Perhaps one of your party guests will bring over some sushi or some salmon to put in your smoker for a special treat. Raw fish presents a real hazard to dogs. Some fish, notably salmon and trout, carry a parasite called Nanophyetus salmincola that can infect and kill a dog if not quickly diagnosed and treated.

If the parasite is ingested, symptoms to watch for include a high fever, vomiting, depression, diarrhea, weight loss and discharge from the eyes and nose.

Cats should stay away from raw fish, too. It contains an enzyme that destroys thiamine, an essential part of a cat’s diet. Raw fish? Just say no.

12. Caffeine

Caffeine is one of the compounds in chocolate that makes it toxic to pets. Even on its own, caffeine can poison a dog or cat. There’s no reason to let your best pal drink soda, energy drinks, coffee or tea. Don’t let them do so and caffeine poisoning won’t be a problem. Remember to keep pets away from the garbage can as well, or they might eat coffee grounds, tea bags, or other dangerous trash.

If your cat or dog exhibits any odd symptoms after a party at which food and drink flowed freely, don’t ignore the warning signs. Rapid medical attention may be warranted. Just hoping Fido or Ms Whiskers will “get better” in a day or so might be sealing their fate.

The best advice of all is to keep your pet well away from human food. It’s not good for them and often is incredibly harmful. You won’t have to worry about it if you never feed it to them. Relax, enjoy your holiday season and snuggle happily with your faithful furry friends. 

Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/12-festive-munchies-you-should-never-fe... 



 5 Ways to Cat-Proof Your Christmas Tree
As Posted by Anca van Niekerk ADMIN

For the first time in almost 20 years, there are cats living under my roof again. Actually, they are kittens. And they are eyeing the Christmas tree we brought home over the weekend with equal parts wide-eyed wonder and mischievous delight. To keep the peace — and maintain my sanity — I looked up a few tips on helping kitties and Christmas trees co-exist. Here are a few that have worked for us:

1. Choose your tree wisely. If you think your kitty is likely to climb and knock over the tree, pick a smaller tree this year that will cause less damage when toppled. Or you might want to settle for a small tabletop tree that can be closed off in another room when the cats are out and about.

2. Put up road blocks. Depending upon the size of your tree — and your kitten — you may be able to place obstacles around your tree that will keep kitty away. Remove chairs and tables that might serve as a launching pad to help your cat jump higher into the tree. And try wrapping the tree base with aluminum foil as most cats don't like to dig their nails into this.

3. Spray some stink. There are a number of spray repellents you can use to keep cats away from your tree. We have been using Bitter Apple spray with some success. Other choices include citronella or citrus oils sprayed directly on the tree, or a diluted vinegar solution sprayed on the tree's base.

4. Decorate judiciously. It won't matter how much stink you spray on your tree, if it is covered with sparkly, dangly baubles, your cat will be hard-pressed to resist. Don't hang any breakable or edible decorations on the lower half of the tree. And if possible, keep the lowest branches of the tree free from all ornaments and potential temptations. Skip the tinsel this year as cats will be far too tempted to eat it when it inevitably hits the ground.

5. Contain cords. Dangling electrical cords are an invitation for a kitty to play and bite. Tape cords to the wall from the outlet to the tree to keep them — and your cat — out of harm's way. And remember to unplug lights when you are not at home. http://www.mnn.com/family/pets/blogs/5-ways-to-cat-proof-your-chris...

Friday, December 28, 2012

In Loving Memory Of One Unique Lady

December shaped up to be a dark and dreary month as friends and members of In The Dark lost a friend, member and administrator.  Joni Gardner was lost to a house fire she did not escape from earlier in December.  The loss has been profound for her friends who have really rallied around one another to pay tribute to her fun loving spirit and nature. To say goodbye and remember such a wild and wonderful woman.

Joni will be best remembered by me as a mother and friend.  I met Joni online and was drawn to her unique character from the start.  We seemed to be in the same places and ended up with the same friends and connections online for a few years.  Inevitably she joined my website and became a valuable contributor who shed her insight into many matters which normally included love and peace.  She had an eye for beautiful pictures and graphics and I always enjoyed reading what she had posted on the sites we shared.

Joni was not a friend I knew as well as I should have.  Sometimes when you travel in internet circles there are also dramas and gossip.  Some people end up guarding themselves carefully while I do know Joni was not one of those.  She was always speaking her mind and did not know the meaning of laying low but many times over she did not strike me as disrespectful to any involved when she spoke upon her views or a situation we may have become involved in.  I admired her for being true to herself and for her style and intelligence.

She was a hippy and somewhat older than me but she really did inspire me to take a closer look at things.  I have never been a conformist and I think she must have had that sense of me which meant we just got along the majority of the time.  We teased one another about being rainbow riders and finding that rainbow connection.  We shared laughs but the time was way too short.  I was very shy where she was very open and out there.  We did not get to talk and chat the way we might have had we more time.  I will always regret not spending more time with her.  I could never ever forget a friend who expressed she only wanted my happiness. She once encouraged me to go for it as far as mending my shortcomings for my son.  In the end she was always on my side and quick to share a positive thought.

I thank you Joni Gardner for being who you were.  So beautiful and so loving.  What we didn't get to in this life I sure hope we will in the next.  Until we meet again....


Joni Rae Gardner
January 26, 1956 - December 13, 2012




Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Legend of the Christmas Stocking

A Christmas stocking refers to an empty sock or sock-shaped bag that children hang on Christmas Eve in the belief that it is to be filled with presents by Santa Claus. The gifts are generally of a small nature, consisting generally of small toys, goodies like candies and fruits, coins or other such items that are often referred to as stocking stuffers or stocking fillers. The bigger gifts are wrapped in present papers and placed near the Christmas tree.

The tradition of Christmas stockings is said to have originated from the actions of a kind noble man named Nicholas, who was born in 280 AD, in Patara, a city of Lycia, in Asia Minor. While still young, his wealthy parents died in an epidemic. A true follower of Jesus Christ's principles, Nicholas became a Christian priest and used all his riches to help the poor, the needy, the sick, and the suffering. He dedicated his life in the service of God and was made Bishop of Myra at a young age. Bishop Nicholas became known throughout the land for his kindness and generosity. A true celibate, Nicholas never married and had no children of his own. But he loved children greatly and often gave gifts to the kids of his hometown. This is why, he became known as the gift giver of Myra. A rich man, he traveled across the country helping people, giving gifts of money and other presents. However, Nicholas always gave his gifts late at night, so that his identity would remain a secret. He did not like to be seen when he gave away presents, so the children of the day were told to go to sleep quickly or he would not come! Nicholas was eventually named the patron saint of children and sailors (because of his concern for sailors and ships) and came to be known as Saint Nicholas.

Through the centuries many stories and legends have been told of Saint Nicholas' life and deeds. One popular account tells us of a poor peasant who lived happily in a small cottage in Patara, Saint Nicholas' hometown, with his wife and three daughters. But their happiness was short-lived when the wife suddenly died of an illness one day, leaving the poor man and his three daughters in despair. All the burden of household chores now fell upon the daughters while their father trudged on with his life with a heavy heart.

When the daughters reached a marriageable age, the poor father became even more depressed for he knew he could in no way marry them off to good men. In those days a young woman's father had to offer prospective husbands something of value - a dowry. Without a dowry, this poor man's daughters were unlikely to marry. The helpless father looked around desperately for some solution while her daughters did their own cooking, sewing and cleaning.

Meanwhile, Saint Nicholas had come to know of the poor peasant and his daughters. Knowing the financial condition of the father, the kindly saint decided to help him. But he wanted to do this secretly. So he went to the peasant's house one night with a bag of gold and waited for the family to go to bed before he could throw the bag through the open cottage window.

That night, after finishing their washing for the day, the daughters had hung their stockings by the fireplace to dry. Little did they know that their benefactor was hiding nearby, waiting for them to go to sleep. A little later, as they turned of the lamps and fell asleep, St. Nicholas tiptoed to the cottage window and peeked inside. In the light of the moon, he saw the daughters' stockings hanging close to his reach. He carefully put in his bag of gold in one of the stockings and went away as stealthily as he came.

When the father found the bag the next morning and opened it, he was ecstasic. There was enough gold in the stocking to pay for the dowry of one daughter. It seemed like a godsend to him. Who could have sent it, he wondered. With this timely gift the father was able to provide for his eldest daughter and saw that she got married to a nice groom.



On another night Saint Nicholas set off with one more bag of gold, and threw it carefully into another stocking, so that the second daughter was provided for.

When his daughters excitedly brought the bag to their father the following morning and opened it, he could not believe his eyes. With this gift the father was able to marry off his second daughter too.

But by this time, the father had grown eager to discover his mysterious benefactor, and next night he kept on the lookout. Then, for the third time Saint Nicholas came with a bag of gold upon his back and walked on to the window. The old lord at once recognized his fellow townsman. He fell on his knees before the kindly Bishop, cried out in joy and gratitude and thanked him with all his heart. With his blessings of Saint Nicholas, the poor father was able to see his three daughters get married. He lived a long and happy life thereafter.

And this is how the tradition of Christmas stockings is said to have started in the European countries. It is also believed that Santa Claus is actually an alteration of this same Saint Nicholas, Santa standing for Saint and Claus for Nicholas.

Since then children have been hanging Christmas stockings or putting out shoes, eagerly awaiting for gifts from Santa Claus. Originally, children simply used one of their everyday socks, but with time special Christmas stockings were created for this purpose. Today, Christmas stockings of a wide variety of styles and sizes can be found in gift stores across countries. There are also special Christmas stockings available in the market.

In modern culture, Christmas stockings are also a popular homemade craft. Some families design unique stockings for each family member. Many families create their own Christmas stockings stitching the name of each family member to the stocking so that Santa knows which stocking belongs to which family member.

In some countries, the contents of the Christmas stocking are the only gifts that a child receives at Christmas from Santa Claus. Western Christmas tradition dictates that a child who behaves badly during the year will not get a gift in their Christmas stocking and will receive a piece of coal instead.

In many places, the Christmas stocking is to be stuffed by a gift that will stimulate the five sensory organs. Traditional celebrations of Christmas demand that the stocking be hung on the fireplace mantel. However, since many contemporary homes do not have fireplaces, stockings are hung in almost any location.

Today, children all over the world continue the tradition of hanging Christmas stockings. Kids of all nations look forward to Christmas and when the stockings are hung, they know the most anticipated time of the year is not far behind.

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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

MIA Holiday Mojo?



December already!  I am in disbelief that the Christmas and Yule season is coming full speed ahead.  Ready or not it's holiday time.

One of the problems I am having as a new blogger is that it is hard to find new and unique things to write about.  Posts can of course range from the magical to the practical so I guess I will just continue to muddle through and hope someone can relate or at least smile from my blog.  I did know for certain that as I have been sitting at my laptop for the past several days I have been lacking some holiday post inspiration so today I decided why not make it my starting topic.  I think too many of us have lost the spirit of this season mostly for the obvious reasons of no time and too much commercialism.  If you have or do feel this way do you think it's spiritual?  Have we just grown up leaving no time to truly enjoy parties and gift exchanging?  Politics of the actual gift giving and receiving?  Haha the politics of gifts...  wow that can be a post all by itself!

I think my own lack of spirit comes from, brace yourself cause I am going to admit it, lack of funds to be truly festive.  Now before you stop reading or hit the 'page back' key I just mean sometimes I get to thinking that if my life had gone differently I might be able to celebrate in any style and with great fun.  I cannot afford a fancy tree and expensive decorations.  My stockings always come from the dollar store and  can never justify the expense of a lot of holiday plants such as a lovely poinsettia that would look divine on my little front porch.  I do know that Christmas is not about money and we could have a great yet small and festive holiday with what we can afford or scrape together because honestly to me it's more about family and being together.  I love getting presents but I am just as happy if not more so to give those presents.  So my dream of bigger and more glittery comes from my heart but I know what's it's really all about so have no fear!

Aside from my missing fortune what else is contributing to my MIA holiday mojo?  Hmmm...  I live with a scrooge who really is not about listening to carols or watching the Christmas specials.  I do these things anyways but not as loudly or necessarily in front of the most comfy room in the house.  I have a son who is give me, give me, give me so as long as he gets a few choice treasured items on his wish list he's good.  Nobody ever wants a second turkey after Thanksgiving for Xmas dinner so it's almost always ham around here.  Oh but by far the best and most noble reason to loose your love of the holidays is having worked more than 7 years in retail, in a mall, on my feet, Christmas eve and the day after!  The pushing, the mess, the crowds....  Oh yeah....  who has spirit after that?!

Just writing this all down has actually helped me.  Just thinking it over it doesn't seem so bad because I know through the years my holidays have changed.  I have had good ones and I certainly have had bad ones.  I am most lucky though that I get a new chance every year for a new experience.  I can become more and more grim over time looking at only what I don't have or what those around me are lacking or I can try even if in some small way to be grateful for what I have.  So what if the biggest tv in the house is not available for my old holiday movies?  I still try to watch them and always end up enjoying them in the end.   I just need to make my peace with my less than perfect life. Hey and what do you know -  the spirit of Christmas is actually still there just buried down deep.  Hiding behind a not so pleasant memory it seems!


In Tribute...
In closing it wouldn't be right to not include the fact that during an extermination of my home last week my cat got out.  In the 2 years I have had her she has never spent anytime outside.  I know she has natural animal instincts but I am worried and mourning her loss.  She was my friend, familiar, family member, daughter and companion.  While I am certain my spirit was already badly affected by the ups and downs of those have and have not's my kitty will be sorely missed so in tribute I wanted to include a little something for her.  If I can overcome this loss right before Christmas than nothing else will ever spoil this joyous time of year for me again.  I am trying to go on as I hope she is too wherever she may be.  Love you my precious Chanel.  Be safe and know I will always love you.